Several times during the planning process so far, I’ve become bogged down by inspiration. There are so many fabulous weddings out there and I sometimes feel as if ours won’t measure up. What I mean is, all of these weddings have fabulous themes and cohesive ideas and everything looks so striking and coordinated together, and I worry that our wedding will just look like a mish-mosh of ideas. I know the things I like, and I know the things Dr. Groomy likes, and I know the things we like together as a couple, but I worry that I won’t be able to pull all those details together and weave them into a single, cohesive event. Most importantly, I worry that the wedding won’t feel like “us.”
In terms of our wedding theme and decor, here’s what we do have/know:
And here’s what we don’t have/know:
Pretty much everything else: florals, cake, linens, invitations, THEME
How do we infuse our personalities into the many details that make up the day? We both love sports, being active, wine, good food, sarcastic humor, etc. We each have our own loves: cooking, reading, movies, video games, fantasy football (I’ll let you guess which one of us loves that one!), etc. Do we take one of those elements and infuse it into our day? We both work on the fritz of the medical industry, do we use that to create a theme? Do we pick a stationery theme and then use that as a way to weave all our elements together? Or do we start completely from scratch with no theme in mind and go from there?
I debated for a long time about writing this post, but then I decided that there must be other brides who have felt this way. We were visiting my parents this weekend, and of course, conversations turned to the wedding. I can’t remember exactly what we were talking about, but I told my mom, “No, we can’t do that—we’re having a formal wedding!” She replied, “But you’re not really formal people!” That single comment sent me reeling. I WANT* our wedding to be beautiful, formal, chic and ELEGANT. I have always dreamed of having a big fancy party, and that’s what we’re aiming to have. However, I do NOT want people to walk away feeling like it “wasn’t us.” So how do I strike the balance between fancy and stuffy? Between a classed-up version of ourselves and trying too hard to be something we’re not?
Sometimes, when I look at all the fabulous weddings out there, I feel really stressed. What if our wedding never comes together like that? Of course, I know it will still be a wonderful, joyous occasion filled with family and friends, and that’s the most important thing…but I also know the part of me who wants it to be an aesthetically-pleasing, cohesive and beautiful event.
Do you ever worry your ideas won’t come together? Any tips for me on how to infuse our SELVES into every aspect of the wedding?
*I really hate using the phrase I WANT when it comes to talking about the wedding, because I know the wedding is about what WE want. However, in this context, I’m discussing my own feelings and not Dr. Groomy’s.