This is going to sound like Psycho Bride Behavior, but I find that if I take a break—no matter how much it is needed—from planning, thinking, reading, or talking about our wedding and weddings in general, I wake up one day and start to freak. For example: This past week, with Thanksgiving and other activities in the forefront of my mind, I didn’t really spend a lot of time on weddings. The wedding related sites on my Google Reader backed up and I didn’t look at a bridal magazine or even flip through our binder/my blog. Yesterday, I suddenly had a mini panic attack that we were behind in planning again (which, of course, I know we aren’t, but we’re talking Deluded Bridal Brain here, people).
I have been relatively stress-free during the planning process thus far. Now, I am not so disillusioned to think that I will not be stressed out AT ALL as the wedding gets closer, but I would like to try to remain as stress-free as possible! Mrs. Star recently posted that she had a lot of free time during her wedding week—and this is the goal I’ve set for myself. I would LOVE to have everything done except for fun things (like mani-pedis & dress pick-up!) prior to Wedding Week.
But back to the example at hand: what I do when I suddenly feel stressed out. I find that being proactive is MUCH better than dwelling on things. I almost always feel better when I am taking action on an issue, rather than worrying about it. So yesterday when I had my mini panic attack, I did what I always do when I feel that way about the wedding: I whipped out our handy-dandy wedding checklist.
Seriously, gals, take my advice—keep a copy of this with your wedding binder AND carry a copy in your purse. When it’s time to check something off, update both lists so they’re always current. I find that carrying a copy of our checklist in my purse is helpful simply because I can take one look at it and know where we’re at—without lugging my big heavy wedding binder around all day every day. This is especially helpful on a day like yesterday—I was able to pull out my checklist and take a look at what I could work on next. Then I came up with a quick action plan that would make me feel like I was accomplishing things again. It helped to calm me down and get my wedding-creative-juices flowing again! I feel once again in control and I know what needs to be worked on next (ahem, baker and florist research).
So that’s my tip for helping stop stress in its tracks: be proactive about the situation and you’ll almost always feel better! Now it’s your turn: what are your best tips for staying stress-free throughout the wedding planning process?