Monthly Archives: August 2010

The Catholic Ceremony, Part One

We finalized our ceremony last week and I am so excited about it!  It is all finally starting to feel real, if you know what I mean!  I think that sometimes, with long engagements, it feels like your wedding day is never going to come.  I am so happy and excited to say that we are now 39 DAYS AWAY!

As I’ve mentioned previously, Dr. Groomy and I are having a full Catholic mass for our ceremony.   This was really important to us.  I am a pretty liberal person and while I don’t agree with all of the Church’s teachings (and in fact, I think some of them are downright archaic), my faith is really important to me…and it’s really important to both of us, as a couple.  I thought I’d give you guys a quick breakdown of what a Catholic Wedding Mass is like.  Now, Catholic masses are generally long, and the wedding mass even moreso.  This post will be broken up into a few separate posts so I don’t bore you too much!  Let’s get started, shall we?  Welcome to your crash course in Catholic weddings!

The outside of our lovely church.  Sooo excited!

Introductory Rites:  This includes the Gathering of the Assembly (when ushers will greet and seat guests), as well as the Procession (which I will speak about more in depth when I post about our music selections), the Opening Hymn (which everybody sings), and the Opening Prayer.

Liturgy of the Word:  This is all of our readings.  When I first was writing this post, I had listed out all of the readings, with explanations for why we chose them.  This got really boring, really quick, and it was hard for me to explain in depth why we chose them…so I decided to just give you a quick rundown of each (Note:  For people who are against organized religion or have issues with Catholicism, it would be hard to explain in depth why we chose certain readings.  Frankly, I don’t feel like getting into a discussion about it on the blog, though I gladly will discuss via email and share our reasoning with anyone who wants to comment or email me!).

First Reading:  The first reading is always from the Old Testament.  We selected Sirach, Chapter 26, Verses 1-4 & 13-16.  Click on this link to read it.  Basically, we picked this reading as reminder to each other that we are the most important thing in each other’s lives (yes, even before children, which could be a whole ‘nother blog post in and of itself.  I will gladly get into our reasoning about this another time, if you guys are interested.  Suffice it to say, I read a lot of new mommy blogs and sometimes I just want to scream at the women, “Um, you still have a husband you know!”). 

Responsorial Psalm:  This is a psalm that is sung after the first reading.  It is chanted by the cantor (who leads the assembly in singing throughout the mass) and includes a refrain that everyone sings.  We chose Psalm 103, The Lord is Kind & Merciful.  Click here to listen to an excerpt.

Second Reading:  The second reading is always from the New Testament.  We chose Romans, Chapter 15, Verses 1b-3a, 5-7, and 13.  Again, this reading offers advice to those entering marriage.  The reading speaks about learning to love not just each other’s strengths, but also faults, and striving to be a supportive partner.  Click here to read it!

Gospel Acclamation:   A series of Alleluias coupled with a short psalm that is sung by everyone.

Gospel:   We chose Matthew, Chapter 5, Verses 13-16.  Click here to read.  This gospel talks about selfless love, and reminds us that although we are the center of attention on our wedding day, we need to continue to be a light or beacon for others even after that day, by showing caring, concern, and love to our friends, family, and those in need.

Homily:  Here, the priest digests and explains the readings for all those present.  Our priest, Father Mike, is awesome and we are so excited to hear what he has to say on our wedding day.

Next up, the Rite of Marriage.  Stay tuned!

OMG we will be standing there in 39 DAYS getting married!  Yay!

What kind of ceremony are you having/did you have?



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One For The Packer Fans


Wedding *

Yep, I just did that.

*Received in an email and too good to pass up.  If you know the source, let me know so I can credit them!


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A Math Lesson

What do you get when take this:

Hair 1

plus this:

Hair 2


Answer:  You get this!

Hair Trial 007

I had my hair trial this past weekend and I am so happy with how it turned out.  Here are the pictures!

Hair Trial 008  Side

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Front (with Veil)

Hair Trial 002  Back (with Veil)

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Side (with Veil)

I love love love love LOVE it.  And I love love love love LOVE the way I feel about myself when I have my hair like this.  Who knew such a simple thing could be such a self-esteem booster?  I felt so beautiful all day with my hair done up!

We are going to make a few small changes on the big day, though.  For starters, we are going to have the bun up a little higher, so the veil will sit higher on my head.  We are also going to tease a bit more for a little more volume to my hair at the crown.  And lastly, the rolls are going to be a bit more defined and cleaner.  I also think we’re going to add some rhinestones.  I keep searching for a perfect hairpiece, but to no avail.  Some tiny rhinestones might be the way I go!

Also this weekend, I found the PERFECT red lipstick for the big day.  I always have trouble shopping for reds—it seems I can never pick the right one.  With the motto “Always Be Prepared,”  I read up on how to pick the perfect red, and gleaned one major tip:  you’ll just KNOW when it’s the right color. I held each color up to the inside of my wrist, as well as to the tip of my index finger (did you know that that area most closely matches the color of your lips?  True story!).  And the articles I read were right, you DO just know when it’s the right color.  I ended up with this one:

Drumbeat Red

L’Oreal Colour-Riche in Drumbeat Red.  I decided against a long-wear lipstick or stain because, to be perfectly honest, I hate them.  I don’t care if I have to reapply, because this lipstick is the perfect color and texture for me! 

So, all in all, a good weekend in the wedding hair and makeup department! 

Did you do a hair trial?  Got any ideas for me about hairpieces?

*All photos taken by my rockin’ stylist, Robin.


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Well, here we are, approximately 45 days out from the wedding (depending on when you read this!), and I’d like to offer a bit of perspective I’ve developed over the last few weeks:

There are certain things guests will NOT give a SHIT about,
so LET. IT. GO.

You guys know that I am a huge perfectionist—a total Type A personality to the max.  But over the past 22 months, I have really learned—and indeed embraced!—the ability to let some things go.  I want everything to be perfect all the time—not necessarily life (I mean, come on, we all know that life isn’t perfect)—but the little details, like things being printed exactly super straight, tissue packets that are easy to open, etc.  Over the past few weeks though, as we get closer and closer to the wedding, I’ve developed a bit of a mantra:  let.  it.  go. 

Tiny, insignificant minorly-screwed-up details that I notice, and that you as a bride notice, are likely not going to be noticed by your Average Joe Wedding Guest.  And if they are noticed by Average Joe, he likely DOESN’T CARE and won’t hold it against you.  And if he does care, Average Joe is an average asshole.

I saw this post yesterday from Miss Husky on the ‘Bee and knew I needed to blog about this.  My message is this:  RELAX.   Her post is a perfect example of something that would TOTALLY bother me, too,  but at some point, you just have to let it go.  No one—I repeat, NO ONE—will care if your RSVP envelopes are printed upside down…or if your invitation vendor screwed up some of your addresses so you fixed them yourself…and if they do care about that, your guests are jerks.   So save yourself some sanity and let the little things go.   Laugh about the tiny mistakes—it’s part of the process, and the process is supposed to be FUN. 

Did you develop an “Eff It” perspective as you got closer to the wedding?


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Shower & Bachelorette Extravaganza, Part Three

Ok, ok…SOME of you are being a BIT impatient about the bachelorette party recap [read:  this post is for you, Emily!  Haha!].   So, after the shower was over, we headed to dinner at a local brewery.

If any of you know me at all, you know that while I love wine, I am a beer-drinkin’ gal at heart.  Dinner at a brewery was perfect for me!  We had good beer and good food, and basically spent a lot of the time socializing and talking.  I received my Bachelorette crown:

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And opened some, ahem, naughty gifts. 

Opening Naughty Gifts! Check out Liz’s face to the right of me.  I don’t know what I just opened but I like to imagine it might have been the Kama Sutra book complete with PHOTOGRAPHED demonstrations.

A little dinner, a little cake, and a car ride downtown with old school Britney Spears blaring, and we arrived at another one of my favorite places, the Milwaukee Ale House.  Again with the good beer!  We socialized there for awhile, then headed to my favorite bar, 5th Ward Pub & Grill.  I used to work there and I am still friends with everyone (and still hang out there regularly).  It was a BLAST blaring the juke box and dancing the night away.

Dancing Ahem…I am clearly very serious about whatever move I was doing right then. HA!

After that we made a quick stop at La Cage, a gay dance club across the street.  It was SO MUCH FUN…and let’s just say that there might have been a bit of cage dancing in there for me.  Sorry, no pictures of that—the professional in me just won’t let them see the light of day.

Once we were danced out, everyone dispersed.  I headed home with my sister, my cousin, and my bridesmaid Beezus, where we ate popcorn and rehashed the whole night with Dr. Groomy.  I woke in the morning for brunch, but then took sporadic naps throughout the day.  I didn’t feel too hungover, but I was soooo tired! 

All in all, it was an AMAZING weekend.  I am so, so lucky to have such great friends and family.  Thank you guys so much again—I love you all!

Missed parts one & two?  Catch up here and here.

*All photos by my fabulous bridesmaid Hayley.


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Shower & Bachelorette Extravaganza, Part Two

Last we left off, my sister and I had a relaxing morning complete with massages and delicious brunch.  Soon, it was time to head to the shower!

The shower was held at a local hotel that was a good mid-point for both the guests from Milwaukee and the guests from Madison.  We arrived right before the shower was to start, so most of the guests were there already.  Here was the beautiful spread:

Table Settings Table Settings:  Matched our wedding colors!  The paddles with the As you see in front of the place settings were for a really fun trivia game we played.  The white sheets of paper were a wedding crossword puzzle all about me and Dr. Groomy that my bridesmaid KDoc created!

Food Spread  The Food Spread.  The girls went with hors d’eourves type foods, since they also planned a dinner out for me later on in the day.  All of the food (and punch! yum!) was so delicious!

Cake! The Cake.  Recognize anything about it?  Bridesmaid Michelle had it designed to go with our Rehearsal Dinner theme and centerpieces
Awesome, no?  It was SO delicious. 

Once all the guests had arrived, we mixed and mingled…and ate and played a few games too!  I took some time to snap pictures with as many people as I could:

Schappe Family
This is most of the women from my Mom’s side of the family.
Front Row:  Aunt Kathy, Cousin Brittany, Cousin Brooke, Aunt Teresa
Back Row:  MOH (and sister) Ali, Me, Mom, Personal Attendant (and Cousin) Erin, Grandma

Jordan & Amy
This is me and my friend Jordan.  She hates this photo but I think it’s darling.  She’s one of our readers!

Jeanne & Amy
Old College Roommate Jeanne.  We recently reconnected in the last year or so, and it’s been great having her in my life again!

Siewicz & Amy
Good Friend Siewicz (a nickname based off her incredibly long and difficult to pronounce last name).  She flew all the way from North Carolina to be here (she attended both my shower and her 10 year high school reunion on this day).

Mary Sue - Shari
Me with my future MIL Mary (left) and Aunt Shari.

Teri & Bets
Me with my cousins Teri (left) & Betsy.

Book Club 1
Book Club Girls, 1

Book Club 2  Book Club Girls, 2

The one thing I forgot was getting a picture with all of my bridesmaids. So there’s a quick tip:  make sure you do that!  They all looked so lovely and I really regret and wish I would have remembered to capture that.

After games, food, and talk, I got to opening some gifts!  My friends and family were so generous.  I can’t wait to use everything we received!


Gifts 2 
Then, it was time to wrap things up.  I made sure to thank everyone, and then it was time to head to dinner!  Stay tuned for part three!

Missed part one?  Catch up here.

*All photos by Bridesmaid Hayley.  Thanks lady!


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Shower & Bachelorette Extravaganza, Part One

Last weekend was my shower and bachelorette party, thrown for me by my lovely bridesmaids.  Seriously, guys?  They BLEW ME AWAY.  It was one of the most special days I have ever had and I felt truly so blessed and lucky and LOVED.  It was amazing.

I know some of you have been waiting for these recaps for awhile (Hi, Megan!!), so I’m going to do them in three parts.  There is so much about the day that I want to remember, and I want to make sure to do it all justice!  So here we go with part one!

My lovely maid of honor, my sister Ali, came down on Friday night to hang out and get ready for the weekend.  We made homemade pizzas (this recipe is amazing!), watched Wedding Crashers and worked on a few wedding projects.  It was a nice way to relax before the big day on Saturday!

One of the projects we worked on…those damn pomanders!

Saturday morning, we woke up bright and early, had some coffee, and I was treated to my first suprise of the day:  massages at an east side spa!  Both Ali and I got a 30 minute massage.  It was soooooo nice!  I am definitely going to get another massage before the wedding—I didn’t realize how tense I was until the massage therapist started working on my back!

After our massages, we went to brunch at one of my favorite restaurants.  Of course, there was this:

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Mojito for her, White Sangria for me

We didn’t want to eat too much as we knew there would be tons of yummy food at the shower, so we split a fruit plate doused with lavender honey (um, divine!) and the black bean cakes, which came with poached eggs, queso fresco and a green salsa on top.  It was so delicious!

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And here we are after finishing up brunch.  We sat outside on the patio and it was such a great time to catch up with my little sister!

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Don’t we look so greasy relaxed after our massages?!

After that, we went home and got ready for the day.  Stay tuned for parts two and three…and here’s a preview:

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Tell me about your pre-wedding fun!  What did you do to relax before the big events?

All pictures are mine.  Don’t steal ‘em!


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