The Catholic Ceremony, Part Two

So, after the Liturgy of the Word, the next part of the Catholic Ceremony is the Rite of Marriage.  It goes a little something like this:

Instruction:  After the homily, the priest will give a short “instruction” on marriage.  This usually flows right from the homily and can even be based on the readings, just as the homily is.

Statement of Intentions/Consent:  The priest will ask the bride and groom publicly to state their intentions concerning:

                         * the freedom of their decision to marry
                         * the permanence of their commitment
                         * the commitment to their family life

Usually, this will be a series of questions that goes like this:

[Name] and [Name], have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage?  [We answer yes, or we do.]

Will you love and honor each other as man and wife for the rest of your lives?  [We answer yes, or we do.]

Will you accept children lovingly from God, and bring them up according to the law of Christ and his Church?  [We answer yes, or we do.]

Exchange of Vows:  Ah, the moment!  This could actually be considered part of Consent, as we are asked to join our right hands and “declare your consent before God and his Church” (and then we say our vows).  Technically, we are supposed to memorize our vows, but we have chosen to repeat them after the priest, for various reasons:  we like that style better than memorizing, and we want to account for any nerves any of us might have!

Here are what our vows will be (!!!!):

Groom:  I, Dr.  Groomy, take you, Amy, to be my lawful wife.  I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health.  I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.

Bride:  I, Amy, take you, Dr. Groomy, to be my lawful husband.  I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health.  I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.

I LOVE THEM.  I always knew we would have traditional vows.  While I love the idea of heartfelt, handwritten vows, there is just something about repeating words that have been said by many others, generations before us, that gets me every time.  This is one area where tradition just feels…so RIGHT to me.  My heart beats fast just writing the vows down here!

Blessing & Exchanging of Rings:  After the vows, the wedding rings are blessed and exchanged.  Each person says the following, while placing the ring on the other’s finger:

[Name], take this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity.
In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.  Amen.

Wedding Bands & DMB 014 (Our rings!)

General Intercessions:  Then comes the general intercessions.  This is also known as the Prayer of the Faithful, or petitions.  We have written prayers based on a specific model that are shared with the assembly as a whole.  After each prayer is read, the assembly responds with “Lord, hear our prayer.”  You can read our intercessions here!

Nuptial Blessing:  The last part of the Rite of Marriage is the Nuptial Blessing.  It can either be sung by the cantor (the person who leads the singing throughout mass) or spoken aloud by the priest.  We have chosen to have our blessing spoken aloud instead of sung.  You can read what our nuptial blessing will be here.

And with that, we will be married…but our mass is only about half over!  Stay tuned for part three, where we celebrate the Eucharist and finish up mass, followed by part four, where I discuss our music and some interesting Catholic dos and don’ts. 

What kind of vows did you have?

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10 responses to “The Catholic Ceremony, Part Two

  1. These were our vows:

    I choose you to be my wife/husband. I love you. You are my best friend. Today I give myself to you in marriage. I promise to encourage and inspire you, to laugh with you, and to comfort you in times of sorrow and struggle. I promise to love you in good times and in bad, when life seems easy and when it seems hard, when our love is simple, and when it is an effort. I promise to cherish you, and to always hold you in highest regard. These things I give to you today, and all the days of our life.

  2. Question: I’m a bridesmaid in a wedding and they are having a full nuptial mass – do the bridesmaids have to stand the whole time or can we sit for part of it?

  3. Oh and our vows were very traditional, but one part was different – we had no “till death do us part” or “as long as we both shall live” but instead said “forever”. It was very meaningful to us both.

  4. @ Annie – All catholic churches have the bridesmaids and groomsmen sit during full mass, in pews or chairs, on the respected sides of the bride/groom. Take a look at pictures of catholic ceremonies, the bride and groom are even seated during mass.

    We are also repeating our vows. Same reason: just in case the nerves strike. Plus, we look at it as the most traditional way to do the vows…and we actually like that “old flavor”. 🙂

  5. amyc13

    Annie, Yezelbelle is correct–you will definitely not have to stand the entire time. Usually they seat the bridal party in the first row on each respective side and the parents in the row after that. You will be doing the same stand up, sit down, kneel, etc. that everyone else does during the mass. Don’t worry about not knowing what to do–they will likely go over it at rehearsal, and if they don’t, the priest will usually give cues to everyone (since not everyone who attends Catholic weddings is Catholic). Hope that helps!

    Yezelbelle–I too love the traditional flavor of old school vows!

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  8. i like very cute wedding bands that are lined with satin clothe and some velvet colored stuffs too .”:

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