What a Bride Wants To Hear

Today’s guest post comes from my dear friend Em.  Ladies, this girl kept me SANE during the wedding planning process.  She was always there for me—letting me vent, offering advice, and just being an all-around awesome friend.  I am so excited that she is guest posting for me.  Thanks again, Em—you rule!

 

Hello, Little Miss Wedding Planner readers! My name is Emily (just call me Em) and I’m THRILLED to be here guest-posting for Amy. Amy and I have been blog friends for quite some time and she even wrote a guest post for me when I got married back in May. I can’t wait to read all about her wedding! I’m sure both she and the day were beautiful. 🙂

 

Brides are a sensitive bunch. The wrong word from any individual can set us into a fit of anger/tears/rage. We work SO hard to make sure our day is perfect, our decisions diplomatic, and our appearance *just* right and damn it, we want to hear that we did a good job!

We’re all guilty of putting our foot in our mouth at one point or another, but a couple’s wedding day is NOT the day for that to happen. Whether you’re a guest, a bridesmaid, a mom, or the in-laws, here is what the bride wants to hear on her wedding day. (Maybe not this exact phrasing, but the general idea.)

From Her Guests:

"This is a FABULOUS party! We’re having such a great time. You did a really good job."

At our wedding, so many guests came up to tell me how beautiful I looked. I smiled, thanked them, and silently waited for them to tell me what a great party I’d thrown. Our wedding was 22 months in the making. I’d put in so much work, cried over logistics, and stressed over the details, so what I looked liked was secondary to my guests enjoying themselves. The next time I’m invited to a wedding, I’ll be sure to tell the bride what a fantastic job she’s done.

From Her Bridesmaids (aka Her Best Friends):

"We’re so happy you found some one that makes *you* so happy!"

When you’re one of the first of in your group to get married, and even if you’re the last, your friends might worry they’ll "lose" you. That you’ll pack up your social life, shove it in the back of a closet, never to be seen again. (Ok, maybe that’s a tad dramatic, but *I’m* a tad dramatic. It’s a gift.) It’s so important that you let the bride know you support her relationship and understand that while weekends in da club might become less frequent, that doesn’t mean she loves you any less.

From Her Mom:

"I’m so proud of you and I’m ready for you to live your own life with this man."

Weddings are an incredibly emotional time for not just the bride and groom, but also the families involved. Whether a bride has a great relationship or a not-so-great relationship with her mom, she’s always aiming to please. Like it or not, we always want our mom’s approval. Knowing that our mom approves of our choices and is ready to "let go" (or "cut the cord" in some cases) is a major stress-reliever.

From Her In-Laws:

"Welcome to the family! You make our son incredibly happy and for that, we love you."

Not everyone is lucky enough to have a great relationship with their in-laws. Even if this is the case, there still needs to be a mutual respect between the two parties. Remember, you are not just marrying your husband, you’re also marrying his family (just as he’s marrying your family.) The simple gesture of "officially" welcoming the bride into the family goes a long way toward familial bliss.


So, do you think this is pretty accurate? What do you hope to hear on your wedding day?

Want to read more of my ramblings? You can find me on my wedding blog and my general lifestyle/newlywed blog!

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6 responses to “What a Bride Wants To Hear

  1. Woooo!!! Thanks for letting me guest post, Amy!!

  2. I agree, 100% with what you said. Before I was engaged, I just didn’t get it. And now that I’m planning my own wedding, it still amazes me at how hyper sensitive I am when it comes to what other people say about me, the event and my relationship. As much as I’d like to say I’m super independent and “don’t care what others say” I still really seek out the approval of others, especially when it comes to something I’ve put my blood, sweat and tears into. When it comes to weddings, some guests think the bride just wants to hear how beautiful she is (which she does, obv) but it’s also important to tell her how gorgeous the event it is and how happy you are for this huge leap of faith. B/c a wedding is a party but a marriage is a lifelong commitment, and we want to know that our loved ones support who we chose to spend our life with.

    I may be sort of partial b/c your my bff, em, but really excellent post!

  3. So true. People expect parties nowadays and don’t ever appreciate how much work it is to throw… until they do it themselves. I wish people were more appreciative and respectful!!!!

  4. I think that’s very accurate! It’s so imporant to remember all of that! 🙂

  5. You are SPOT ON with everything. I wish more people had commented on the STUFF. I know it can be taken as superficial, but like you said, us brides work so hard on everything. It’s nice for it to be noticed!

  6. So true with the comment on what a great party that was planned! Yes, we like to hear how pretty we are, but good gracious, please please comment on how much awesomeness is present in our details and planning!

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