Today’s guest post comes from my dear friend Em. Ladies, this girl kept me SANE during the wedding planning process. She was always there for me—letting me vent, offering advice, and just being an all-around awesome friend. I am so excited that she is guest posting for me. Thanks again, Em—you rule!
Hello, Little Miss Wedding Planner readers! My name is Emily (just call me Em) and I’m THRILLED to be here guest-posting for Amy. Amy and I have been blog friends for quite some time and she even wrote a guest post for me when I got married back in May. I can’t wait to read all about her wedding! I’m sure both she and the day were beautiful. 🙂
Brides are a sensitive bunch. The wrong word from any individual can set us into a fit of anger/tears/rage. We work SO hard to make sure our day is perfect, our decisions diplomatic, and our appearance *just* right and damn it, we want to hear that we did a good job!
We’re all guilty of putting our foot in our mouth at one point or another, but a couple’s wedding day is NOT the day for that to happen. Whether you’re a guest, a bridesmaid, a mom, or the in-laws, here is what the bride wants to hear on her wedding day. (Maybe not this exact phrasing, but the general idea.)
From Her Guests:
"This is a FABULOUS party! We’re having such a great time. You did a really good job."
At our wedding, so many guests came up to tell me how beautiful I looked. I smiled, thanked them, and silently waited for them to tell me what a great party I’d thrown. Our wedding was 22 months in the making. I’d put in so much work, cried over logistics, and stressed over the details, so what I looked liked was secondary to my guests enjoying themselves. The next time I’m invited to a wedding, I’ll be sure to tell the bride what a fantastic job she’s done.
From Her Bridesmaids (aka Her Best Friends):
"We’re so happy you found some one that makes *you* so happy!"
When you’re one of the first of in your group to get married, and even if you’re the last, your friends might worry they’ll "lose" you. That you’ll pack up your social life, shove it in the back of a closet, never to be seen again. (Ok, maybe that’s a tad dramatic, but *I’m* a tad dramatic. It’s a gift.) It’s so important that you let the bride know you support her relationship and understand that while weekends in da club might become less frequent, that doesn’t mean she loves you any less.
From Her Mom:
"I’m so proud of you and I’m ready for you to live your own life with this man."
Weddings are an incredibly emotional time for not just the bride and groom, but also the families involved. Whether a bride has a great relationship or a not-so-great relationship with her mom, she’s always aiming to please. Like it or not, we always want our mom’s approval. Knowing that our mom approves of our choices and is ready to "let go" (or "cut the cord" in some cases) is a major stress-reliever.
From Her In-Laws:
"Welcome to the family! You make our son incredibly happy and for that, we love you."
Not everyone is lucky enough to have a great relationship with their in-laws. Even if this is the case, there still needs to be a mutual respect between the two parties. Remember, you are not just marrying your husband, you’re also marrying his family (just as he’s marrying your family.) The simple gesture of "officially" welcoming the bride into the family goes a long way toward familial bliss.
So, do you think this is pretty accurate? What do you hope to hear on your wedding day?