City Chic Nuptials: The Days Before

The days before our wedding were actually pretty relaxed.  I worked the first three days of the week, then had off the Thursday and Friday before the wedding.  My sister, my maid of honor, and Brad’s brother, his best man, rolled into town on the Thursday before the wedding.  We had a blast just hanging out with them and relaxing before everyone else came to town. We did our favors on Thursday, and my sister and I picked up my wedding dress and had lunch together.  The weather was beautiful and it was so nice and relaxing.

FavorsOur favors on the table. 
Photo courtesy of our awesome photographer, Sarah Immel Photography.

And then.  Friday.  The day before our wedding.  Why does no one tell you that you’re going to be an emotional wreck the day before?!  Seriously, guys.  I was a MESS that day.  I must have cried at least three times before 3:00pm…but more on that in a second!

My sister and I got up early and treated ourselves to mani-pedis.  It was so fun!

Miscellaneous Wedding Prep 003

Miscellaneous Wedding Prep 004

We were some of the only people in the nail salon and I remember thinking it was SO weird that I was getting married the next day. 

Afterwards, we headed over to the venue to set up our picture display, so that the caterers didn’t have to do it.  It was a little unnerving, as the venue coordinator wasn’t there and everything seemed to be in disarray.  Regardless, we got it done and then went home to have lunch, where I had my first breakdown of the day.

Photo DisplaySurprise!  Our photo display all set up.  I was FLOORED with how great it turned out, and a lot of people commented how much they loved it. 
Photo by our fabulous photographer, Sarah Immel Photography.

And now I need to get on my soapbox for a second.

I know it’s normal and that this happens with every wedding, but A TON  of people canceled on us the week before the wedding  (like, more than 5 guests).  I don’t know about you guys, but I think that this is BEYOND rude and I’m not going to apologize for finding it completely unacceptable.  Truthfully, unless there is an extreme emergency (which there was for two of our guests and they are TOTALLY excused), this is one of the rudest things you could ever do to a bride and groom AFTER THEIR FINAL BILL IS PAID and to be frank, it WILL change my opinion of you.  The only thing worse in my opinion is NOT SHOWING UP AT ALL and then not apologizing or explaining it to us later (which happened to us as well). 

We did the best we could and rearranged things, but paid is paid and there’s no getting money back for guests who cancel or don’t show up (at least for our venue/caterer).  I had my first breakdown of the day when a guest who said he wasn’t coming decided TO come and then decided again NOT to come.  I mean, what the shit?!  Who does that?!  What caused me to cry about it, though?  The fact that we had already been to the venue and “now the escort cards are going to be all fucked up.”  Oh, honestly, Amy.  It was like the straw that broke the camel’s back or something.  I think back now and laugh, because escort cards?!  Really?  No one cares anyway and everything ended up fine…but it was as though that one minute detail finally broke the dam open.

From there, it was downhill.  I cried when my parents got to the hotel, I cried in my hotel room after I checked in and was alone for awhile and didn’t know what to do with myself, I cried NUMEROUS times at our rehearsal dinner (both happy tears, sad tears, and holyshitIjustfellonmyasswaittilyouhearTHATstory tears)…ugh.  I was a mess.  So listen up, ladies who aren’t married yet:  IT IS OK.  YOU CAN (AND LIKELY WILL) BE A MESS THE DAY BEFORE YOUR WEDDING.  It’s stressful.  It’s emotional.  It’s life-altering.  And it’s ok to FEEL all of that in the 24 hours ahead of time.  A few of our married friends who were at the rehearsal told me they were the same way—a complete mess the day before their weddings.  So remember, this is normal.  And it’s ok.  Because guess what?  The next day, you’ll wake up and you’ll be GETTING MARRIED.  And you will feel blissfully happy, which is exactly what I felt that day.

And with that, recaps are under way!  Up next, we rehearse.

Were you a mess during the days before your wedding?  And why did no one tell me I would be?!

*All photos by me unless otherwise noted.  Do not use without my express permission!



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26 responses to “City Chic Nuptials: The Days Before

  1. I didn’t tell you that you’d be a wreck the day BEFORE your wedding, because, well….that happened to me the DAY OF the wedding! 🙂 I think it has to happen at some point — before/during/after — for you to just get all of the emotion (good and bad!) out.

    I’m sorry that people cancelled/dicked you around / didn’t show up at all. We had people that were super, super late (only showed up to eat and drink from our open bar…so classy) and then attempted to blame traffic. I feel your pain!

  2. Ugh, you already know that I went through the same thing. I’m sorry that you had to experience the annoying drop-outs and no-shows too! I couldn’t help but take it personally, and I also was pissed because of the money lost. But what can you do? In the end, we’re married! And we had great weddings so it’s their loss!

  3. Dancy

    I agree with you that some things just can’t be helped. In our case, they were all completely understandable. The week leading up to our wedding was a disaster. We had 2 deaths in the family, 1 that struck one side to the core. Also, the day of our wedding – in between the church and cocktail hour, while we were all off taking pictures – the pregant wife of one of our groomsmen was rushed to the ER. Her mother in law & 2 sisters accompanied her to the hopsital. Thank goodness she was fine & they let her go “home” (back to the hotel) at the end of the night, but we were scared there for a while.

    I also agree 100% about the rude people. I know Ms. Post would die, but I’d just skip any kind of Thank You to those mannerless “friends”.

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  5. stephanie

    I called the manager of my wedding hotel, I quote myself here, ” a festering a-hole.”
    I threw my shoe at a wall .
    I cried like five times.

    Also, WE HAD LIKE SIX PEOPLE CANCEL TOO. That’s like a thousand bucks! WTF! two of them never gave an excuse (just no showed) and didn’t send a gift , which i thought was really rude. Two of them had a soccer game to go to or something (seriously?!) and one of them died, and is off the hook.

  6. 1.) Love the title of your recaps!!
    2.) Yeah, shit tends to hit the fan the last few days before the wedding.
    3.) Which is probably why I drank a bottle of wine at my rehearsal dinner.
    4.) Whoops.

  7. I love your photo display! It adds such a personal touch!! Yeah we definitely had a few last minute guests change their minds and it was SO frustrating!! I can’t imagine doing that to a bride, it just blows my mind. I’m glad to hear that everything turned out well!! 🙂

  8. I think I was okay but that is only because I made the day all about pampering. I got my hair done for the rehearsal (I was lazy but how many times can you use the excuse, I’m getting married tomorrow), I had all my wedding stuff ready to go, and I basically just tried to relax. So in short, extra pampering got me through.

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  10. Ahhh I would have freaked about the no-shows too! How frustrating! 😦 I know it’s bound to happen to us, so I’m just mentally preparing myself now! I’m sorry for all of your tears! I know I’ll be the same way!

    P.s. The photo display turned out amazing! Love it!

  11. I was a mess. So I feel ya. A few people didn’t show up and we weren’t charged PP so it was ok financially, but I was SO PISSED. WTF with the no-call no-show?!?!?!? People are so rude.

    In other news, the photo display is GORGEOUS!

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